Tennis & Life Camps

Hope in the Messy Middle

TLC was put into a situation out of our control three months ago when COVID-19 hit, just as you were, and the entire world was.  All of TLC’s revenue as a not-for-profit comes in the eight weeks of summer camp that we are canceling for the safety of all, and we face uncertainty, just as […]

Anxiety Is Essential For…. What???

I talked with my 88-year-old mentor, Chuck Lofy, two days ago, as the magnitude of the pandemic washed over me.  Chuck is probably the person who has helped me through more life changes than anyone in my life other than Leandra and Madeline.  He, Steve Wilkinson, and Dennis Johnson have been my rocks as mentors. […]

The Grass Is Green…

He would be 50 now.  He would be director of TLC.  He would have you laughing at his goofy jokes.  And crying at how tender hearted he could be to the people who were least popular.  He made them feel like they were whole. Because they were whole to him.  And, in his eyes, everyone […]

When Life Takes a Turn, Turn With It

Thirty-nine years ago tonight I was kidnapped.  Taken from my dorm room at midnight, despite my fruitless protests.  I had come from a late-night student meeting at Gustavus where I was a senior.  I was sick, tired and had my GREs (Graduate Record Exams) early the next morning.  And I was greeted at my dorm […]

My Actions Are My Only True Possessions

Who are you without March Madness? Who are you without the pro tennis circuit? Who are you without the NBA to distract you? The NHL? MLB? Theater? Concerts? Restaurants and bars? Your synagogue, church, mosque, temple? Who are you without your job as custodian? Or teacher? Or fund raiser? Or musician? Or server? Or tennis […]

A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood

I woke up this morning at 3:18 AM.  I was thinking about forgiveness.  I didn’t even try to get back to sleep, just laid there rolling it around in my head.  Because there is someone (and a list that is much longer than one, I’m afraid, but we’ll start with one) that I have been […]

Be Driven By Curiosity, Not Fear. (First of Three Parts)

There are so many things to fear in this world.  People who cheat and get away with it, people who lie and get away with it, people who bully and get away with it.  On and off the court.  Climate changing faster than we can keep up.  People who do not look like us or […]

TLC Blog – How TLC is Like GVS

TLC Blog – How TLC is Like GVS I walked by the court.  Two fifty-year old brothers at family camp were lining up.  I knew from before GVS started that their understanding and internalizing of our Three Crowns℠ philosophy (positive attitude, full effort, good sportsmanship) was, let’s say, stunted, but then I thought, “Naw, not […]

Thanksgiving. Cheating, Bitterness, and Understanding

I have been having a series of conversations recently with someone whose ideology I have deeply and bitterly opposed . Just as they have deeply and bitterly opposed mine. Throughout the course of these conversations, I have discovered that as I have stopped pushing or saying internally “What is the matter with you, anyway???”, and […]

TLC and Carjacking

A year ago today, I was carjacked. I made mistakes and miscalculations. I was on my way to play tennis at 6:30 AM on a Sunday. My first mistake was giving a ride to two 20-year-olds who appeared in our driveway on that rainy November morning with the temperature hovering around 35 degrees.  I felt […]